Maturity - understanding the Intention !

As a kid, we always used to go over the tone. Our parents used to tell, or rather scold us on watching a lot of TV, eating chocolates, going out without their permission, playing on a busy road, blah blah blah . . .

As a teenager, we were always told, rather ordered to study hard and get good marks - excel in everything, be ahead of everyone else, blah blah blah . . .

We didn't really understand their actual intention of doing and saying those things at that time, may be that is what we call childhood. Childhood is full of immature behavior because we don't really know about the consequences of anything that we are doing or not doing. We will not always be told things in the sweetest of tones - we have never taken such things seriously, have we?

People, like our own parents, who have gone through such phases of life - they know the ups and downs - they know what is best for us. It is difficult for them too sometimes, to make us understand how certain things we should do would help us in our future. And then we realize such things when its too late. Who is to blame?

DO NOT BE DECEIVED : "Bad company ruins good morals."

As an adult too, we never become completely mature to understand the care and good intention of people who are concerned and have affection for us. Normally, if someone is talking sweetly and politely - we regard that person as good, as someone who cares for us. Remember, neither everyone has good communication skills nor everyone has the habit of saying good things in a good way. There are people who have good intentions for you, but wouldn't say things in a way that suits you. It is up to you to understand the actual reason and internal intent of a person behind his external style and presentation of putting his concern.

"BE CAREFUL WHO YOU OPEN UP TO. ONLY A FEW PEOPLE ACTUALLY CARE, THE REST JUST WANT TO HAVE SOMETHING TO GOSSIP ABOUT."

Maturity is like perfection - we can only strive to achieve it, but can never imbibe it completely. Money can make us attractive and good-looking, education can make us intelligent and knowledgeable, but somethings can neither be bought or upgraded, until we try to change ourselves and understand things from a broader perspective.

Always try to visualize people from their thoughts and intentions - may be then you will find the real beautiful and attractive people. ☺

Personality - Philosophy - Perspective

Everyone is unique in this world, no matter what. Though it is even said that there exist seven other people who look exactly like you and also, many are born as twins - but their nature, their perception towards different things, ability to act and react in various situations, behavior towards self as well as others can never be exactly the same. You might be very much similar to a person genetically, but that is not the case when it comes to comparison on the basis of Personality-Philosophy-Perspective, I call it the P-P-P conundrum.

Now, the first one - "Personality" is nothing but what you make others feel about you, i.e., what you pretend to be from the outside. The second one - "Philosophy" is your own thought process, i.e., your own beliefs and ideologies - it may or may not differ from "Personality" depending upon how you choose to portray yourself. The third one - "Perspective" is your reaction towards certain events, incidents and daily-life situations that you encounter and find yourself in, i.e., your ability to perceive and deal with them in your own different way.

No one is perfect. In fact, the definition of Perfection also differs from one individual to another. We say many a times - "That person is not my type, he is different", but that shouldn't mean he has a bad nature because everyone in this world is liked by some others. Its your personal perspective, and you should not generalize it by saying that the person is bad. Its up to you to decide whether you can adjust with that bad different nature or not. If you can, just be with the person for his good things; otherwise, just don't fake it.

Remember, you don't hold the right to change anybody according to you or say things about any other person - you should only say or make decisions about yourself. Try to cope up with the P-P-P factor : don't expect that you would like everyone, and in turn, that each person would like you.