Maturity - understanding the Intention !

As a kid, we always used to go over the tone. Our parents used to tell, or rather scold us on watching a lot of TV, eating chocolates, going out without their permission, playing on a busy road, blah blah blah . . .

As a teenager, we were always told, rather ordered to study hard and get good marks - excel in everything, be ahead of everyone else, blah blah blah . . .

We didn't really understand their actual intention of doing and saying those things at that time, may be that is what we call childhood. Childhood is full of immature behavior because we don't really know about the consequences of anything that we are doing or not doing. We will not always be told things in the sweetest of tones - we have never taken such things seriously, have we?

People, like our own parents, who have gone through such phases of life - they know the ups and downs - they know what is best for us. It is difficult for them too sometimes, to make us understand how certain things we should do would help us in our future. And then we realize such things when its too late. Who is to blame?

DO NOT BE DECEIVED : "Bad company ruins good morals."

As an adult too, we never become completely mature to understand the care and good intention of people who are concerned and have affection for us. Normally, if someone is talking sweetly and politely - we regard that person as good, as someone who cares for us. Remember, neither everyone has good communication skills nor everyone has the habit of saying good things in a good way. There are people who have good intentions for you, but wouldn't say things in a way that suits you. It is up to you to understand the actual reason and internal intent of a person behind his external style and presentation of putting his concern.

"BE CAREFUL WHO YOU OPEN UP TO. ONLY A FEW PEOPLE ACTUALLY CARE, THE REST JUST WANT TO HAVE SOMETHING TO GOSSIP ABOUT."

Maturity is like perfection - we can only strive to achieve it, but can never imbibe it completely. Money can make us attractive and good-looking, education can make us intelligent and knowledgeable, but somethings can neither be bought or upgraded, until we try to change ourselves and understand things from a broader perspective.

Always try to visualize people from their thoughts and intentions - may be then you will find the real beautiful and attractive people. ☺

Personality - Philosophy - Perspective

Everyone is unique in this world, no matter what. Though it is even said that there exist seven other people who look exactly like you and also, many are born as twins - but their nature, their perception towards different things, ability to act and react in various situations, behavior towards self as well as others can never be exactly the same. You might be very much similar to a person genetically, but that is not the case when it comes to comparison on the basis of Personality-Philosophy-Perspective, I call it the P-P-P conundrum.

Now, the first one - "Personality" is nothing but what you make others feel about you, i.e., what you pretend to be from the outside. The second one - "Philosophy" is your own thought process, i.e., your own beliefs and ideologies - it may or may not differ from "Personality" depending upon how you choose to portray yourself. The third one - "Perspective" is your reaction towards certain events, incidents and daily-life situations that you encounter and find yourself in, i.e., your ability to perceive and deal with them in your own different way.

No one is perfect. In fact, the definition of Perfection also differs from one individual to another. We say many a times - "That person is not my type, he is different", but that shouldn't mean he has a bad nature because everyone in this world is liked by some others. Its your personal perspective, and you should not generalize it by saying that the person is bad. Its up to you to decide whether you can adjust with that bad different nature or not. If you can, just be with the person for his good things; otherwise, just don't fake it.

Remember, you don't hold the right to change anybody according to you or say things about any other person - you should only say or make decisions about yourself. Try to cope up with the P-P-P factor : don't expect that you would like everyone, and in turn, that each person would like you.

Speak Up - It does not cause noise pollution !

I don't think that comes with better communication skills. Its the Confidence in you that makes you to speak up and raise concerns. Obviously, good communication will help you to put your point in a better and more understandable way. But bringing clarity to your issue is secondary, raising the issue first holds the foremost priority.

We all have been instructed a lot about speaking up mostly in the professional world, but this holds true in every sphere of our life.

The presence of issues and concerns is expected, but not letting everyone aware of them within time is not acceptable. Its the best when things happen as expected by everyone in a predictable manner.

Surprises are welcomed by very few people, and never in the professional world !!

What usually I have observed around me while working with colleagues is that people who do not foresee potential risks get portrayed as highly incompetent. Presenting even highly valid points as core reasons of failure afterwards doesn't help; they are only perceived as mere excuses.

Never over-promise and under-deliver. Always try to -

Under - promise   and   Over - deliver !!!!

Expectations : the primary source of all Experiences

Expectations are nothing but what we predict for a certain situation to be in future. But most of us do not realize that the prediction is based on quintessence, i.e., if everything keeps in place and circumstances prove to be favorable enough. But Life is not meant to favor your wishes and hopes, it is not meant to be smooth. This is when we are faced with the consequences of the Unexpected.

Life is like water in the ocean - we can only see the waves from above until one goes deep inside to unravel the mysteries of it. And the harder you try, the more you will be possessed by the subtleties of Life. Life as we know it is a bliss without experiences. Experiences are never bad, as they always teach us something good for our lives ahead.

There is no harm in keeping expectations from one-self or others, but to be not prepared for the contrary is stupidity, and to not accept it is a crime against self. Moving on in life does not indicate remorselessness or lack of dedication, it signifies that you are strong enough to gather yourself and ready to kick-start again.

Expectations are not always realistic - not understanding the practicality of making something possible is imbecility.

Expectations are based on trust. Trust is nothing, but an illusion created by our mind to keep our heart unaware of the truth for a while. When we trust blindly, we do not even believe what we see because our mind perceives it differently, until and unless an eventual realization makes you acknowledge the actuality. The consequence is the Experience.

Life is incomplete without all such experiences. It becomes dull and monotonous. When you understand the secrecy of the sacred and enigmatic life, you would anticipate that anything can happen and Life would still not lose a chance to amaze you ! :P

So keep expecting . . keep experiencing . . keep getting amazed . . live life as it is !!! :))

I thought its never going to happen . . . but it did !

I thought that's never going to happen..but it did..
we did fall apart..like a broken ridge..


We trusted each other..but all in vain..
because when the time came..there was only pain..
I was shattered..that was all my fault..
I thought that's never going to happen..but it did..


I said i like you..that was no harm..
but in your head..it raised an alarm..
you said that was wrong..the love rising in me..
I thought that's never going to happen..but it did..


I never felt lonely when u were there..
in the crowd..it was only you I could see everywhere..
my love has reached the next level..I see it..
I thought that's never going to happen..but it did..


'Love' was just a word for me before..
I didn't knew what it meant at its core..
you were the 'one' who taught me the word..
I thought that's never going to happen..but it did..


My world was getting smaller and lost somewhere..
I could see that it was in your eyes everywhere..
the Feeling was nice..it was of Love..
I thought that's never going to happen..but it did..


We used to walk together..hand in hand..
never cared of the people and what they might understand..
walking alone on the endless road..
I thought that's never going to happen..but it did..


With you my sadness vanished in the air..
your smile was enough to give my eyes a glare..
"Can i ever Hate You?"..i didn't feel that a bit..
I thought that's never going to happen..but it did..

  

Addiction was the word that was meant for me..

the ultimate bonding that I shared with thee..
the love..the care..the smile on your face..
I thought that life can't go on without you..but it did!